Check your pulse if this doesn’t make you cry! Guuuurl. Trying to discreetly cry on a plane right now.
So sweet! Kisses!

This will make you pause and think



Kaique Batista dos Santos (Facebook picture)

Warning this is pretty upsetting.  I hate reading stories like this but I think it is very important to raise awareness of things like this.  A 16-year old boy was tortured to death in Brazil by a gang of skinheads after attending a gay-themed party near the stadium that will host the World Cup ceremony this summer…  Kaique Batista dos Santos, 16, has ALL OF his teeth PULLED out with iron rods and then was kicked/beaten to death…This is making me tear up and just feel sick.  There is something very human that happens to us when we read things like this.  It touches us somewhere deep…at least those of us with a heart.

Here is what is sister said, “These thugs enjoy beating and torturing with their bare hands and they are please to take the lives of homosexuals.”.

A vigil will take place in memory of the fallen teenager in Sao Paulo on Friday and the official statement from the Department of Public Safety is that this report is “confidential”.  BS.  Do something about it.

Such a tragic loss.  16.  An innocent life taken because of the horrible propaganda that is spread about the gays.  This has got to stop.  And something that people need to get is that every time gay marriage is denied or every time you hear a preacher at Church say that being gay is sin, it quietly supports this type of behavior.  This is a fact.  That is why I say any sort of anti-gay propaganda is supporting hate-crimes.  Please think about this and pass the message on.

Open letter to Utah government


Dear Utah Government,

Your state is known for the crazy $hit that goes down with the Mormons.  Everyone knows that you turn the other way or even support their crazy ways.  Everyone knows the Mormon’s donated millions of $ to stop gay marriage in California, promote conversion therapy to turn gay people straight (which science has proven is deadly) and not to mention that bit of a mess called polygamist compounds.   Yes, we know about that.  People have multiple wives and some of them are underage and immediate family members.  This is fact.  And yes, you have made some very public arrests in a very clear effort to show the “liberal media” that you don’t support the polygamists.

Here we are in 2014 and you are fighting so hard to block marriage equality for people who simply love each other.  They aren’t looking to have multiple partners, marry their immediate family or impose their political views on others.  They are simply looking to have the same civil rights as everyone else.  And let’s be clear on one thing.  Marriage is a civil rights issue. 

I have been to Utah many times and there are lovely people there.  Most of them transplants for work… That said, I think you should work on promoting education, feeding the hungry, stopping 50-year-old men from marrying their 14 year old cousins and other very real and pressing issues.  Additionally, please don’t forget that we have separation of Church and state for a reason.

Best regards,
Decent people



I think you meant to say “stupid”…


Hmmm…not sure how that is gay. Idiot.

So the host and cast of UK car show ‘Top Gear’ have gotten into some trouble for posting this pic on twitter.  The host Jeremy Clarkson (in the pic) was sleeping on the pic and someone took this pic of him.  He posted to his Twitter and has since taken it down and apologized.  I don’t know if he had anything to do with this pic but clearly he thought it was funny enough to post on Twitter. 

Not sure how people have not gotten the message yet but GAY means either homosexual or happy.  It can’t be substituted for other words.  I’d love to punch whoever wrote that sign right in their genitals.

Being gay is against Muslim law (civil law)


I know that my opinions on organized religion are not exactly the norm and I also do realize that there are times where I am tough on organized religions.  That said, I really do think religion is great when used in the right context.  Now having said that piece, I can’t understand how some religions are so extreme.

Nigeria has some pretty tough anti-gay laws.  Nigeria also has the most Muslims in Africa.  That said, Muslim law (the actual civil law) forbids homosexuality.  I’m not talking about gays can’t adopt or get married (which is still disgusting and wrong) but being gay is actualy a straight up crime in any Arab nation.  Basically what that means is that you can and will be prosecuted for being homosexual.  I should also mention that women are second class citizens in any Islam nation as well.  I have NOTHING against the Muslim religion.  I am simply stating facts.  You can check out a list of Islam nations here.   One more quick note: Under Islamic law, a homosexual can be sentenced to death by stoning.  Same for women that disrespect” their husbands.  Lastly, men can have more than 1-wife.  Sadly, this may include immediate family.

Back to the story.  A Nigerian man received 20 lashings by order of an Islamic court for being gay.  The story doesn’t end here.  There is currently a real life witch-hunt situation in Nigeria.  Officials are actively looking to find gays and bring them to “justice”.  The deputy head of the Hisbah in Kano state, Usman Nabahani told the news that the anti-gay laws were a “welcomed development” and “Definitely, we will work tirelessly toward the enforcement of this law by the special grace of God,”.  Special grace of God eh?

As if that wasn’t enough, he added “Obviously, we will embark on similar raids on gays and lesbians in Kano,”.  “From now on, we will go into every nook and corner of Kano state to ensure that (the prohibition of) prostitution, gay marriages, marriages of the same sex and consumption of alcohol… is fully complied with, so that we can have a decent society….We are given more power, we are given more support now to wage serious war against these issues.”.

Putin feels the heat


As you know, Russian President Vladimir Putin has received harsh criticism over his anti-gay laws. Wonder why? Ya jack ass. Anyway…Putin or Puta as I prefer to call him (look it up), keeps trying to dismiss all the concerns about his anti-gay laws. He claims no athlete will face discrimination. Really?? How is that going to be possible if you have anti-gay laws?? Are you going to create some sort of special law that gives the athletes a special group of rights? Here is what Putin had to say on Thursday to the foreign ambassadors. “The Olympic Games will be held in full compliance with the Olympic charter, without any discrimination on any basis. Russia will be rooting for its own athletes of course, but we wish success to all the athletes,”. He went on to say, “I am confident the Olympics will bring nations closer together and help strengthen friendship, trust and partnership around the world,”.

Sounds to me like he got himself a great PR guy or gal. You also may have read that many world different leaders will not be attending Thai Olympics this year. President Obama of the US and UK Prime Minister David Cameron to name a few… Also, US President Obama has named quite a few gays to attend the Olympics as US delegates. Something tells me he would be pretty pissed if anyone laid a finger on them…

Eat it Putin.

That is all. Kisses!

Quick rant: Civil rights


It’s slowly happening.  Judges are starting to get their heads out of their asses and saying that laws banning gay marriage are unconstitutional.  NO SHIT! Liberty and justice for all.  ALL! That includes the most fabulous people. 

Just a quick rant as I am reading news about how US District Judge Terrence Kern ruled that Oklahoma’s ban on same-sex marriage violates the US Constitution.  Way to go Oklahoma! Will be interesting to see how this plays out.  I’ve said it before, I give national marriage equality 5-10 years max in the USA.  Probably closer to 5.


Gay can be cured! With magic!


Banned advertisement from the ant-gay group Core Issues

Over in London, there is a group called “Core Issues”.  It is a Christian group that is focused on helping turn people straight! Magically of course because THAT IS NOT POSSIBLE! What’s next? Mind you this group has had their ads banned in London because they are “extremely offensive” and now there is a bill in the parliament that will make this type of group illegal under tighter laws around the psychotherapeutic industry.

The practice of the “gay cure” or “gay conversion” therapy is widely condemned by professionals.  Conversion therapy has been proven to cause depression, anxiety and suicidal tendencies.  Core Issues openly practices conversion therapy…but that’s not what they say.  Here is what their spokesperson had to say, “It’s not conversion therapy. It’s about assisting people to change from unwanted sexual attraction if they want to have this therapy.”.  That’s right.  It’s about changing people’s feelings that YOU don’t like.  I wish they would just own it.  

This is dumb. Even for a Republican from Texas


Rep. Louie Gohmert (Idiot)

Texas is known for having some interesting characters.  Well Rep. Louie Gohmert just proved that things are certainly bigger in Texas.  Especially idiots.  Gold old Louie said that the judges who passed marriage equality “need some basic plumbing lessons.”.  He had the following to say during a ‘meeting with conservatives’ event, “…Basically, we haven’t seen any biological evidence to support marriage being between a man and a woman…”.  It is so funny when folks who think the world is 2000 years old start talking about biology.  It’s like ok, the world is 2000 years old, God created everything in 7 days and oh yea…biology is great when we can use it to discriminate.  

Louie is also known for saying that the gays are causing societies downfall with the “gay agenda”.  More irony.  These people spewing hate talk about agendas… I wonder if they can even spell agenda.

Bottom line, this guy and all his like-minded friends are on the wrong side of history.  Using religion to promote bigotry has been done since religion has been around.  Sadly, it is not religion itself that is the issue.  It’s always the people.

Quick rant


Words to love by: “…It is better in prayer to have a heart without words than words without a heart.”
~ Mahatma Gandhi

Yay Britain!


Marriage equality has finally come to Britain! Two quick notes here.  1. I like many people didn’t realize Britain didn’t have marriage equality.  They actually had civil-unions since 2005.  2.  Any country with a QUEEN best have gay marriage! Ok?? Heyyyyy..

Sometimes I write like I am just talking to one of the girls…sorry about that.  Ahem.  Serious tone.

House of Commons Speaker John Bercow announced the great news on Wednesday.  The “Marriage (Same Sex Couples) Bill,” will legalize same-sex unions in England and Wales.  Queen Elizabeth have her official ok to the law as a formality.  According to the Associated Press, this law will allow gay couples to have both civil and religious (as long as the religious organization wants to) ceremonies in England and Wales.  

Good for you Britain! Hopefully the USA won’t be too far behind 🙂

Oh Mormon Church…


The Mormon Church just released a SHOCKING statement saying that they don’t want gay marriages conducted in their temples.  However, feel free to marry your sister.   Ok, I added the sister part but…let’s be real folks.  Uh huh.

Here is a statement from the Mormon Church that I actually agree with: “Just as those who promote same-sex marriage are entitled to civility, the same is true for those who oppose it,”.  This is true.  Just because their view point is clearly bigoted, they are entitled to it.  You can’t force someone to think differently.  That said, they don’t have the right to influence politics or infringe on the rights of others.  
“Consistent with our fundamental beliefs, Church officers will not employ their ecclesiastical authority to perform marriages between two people of the same sex, and the Church does not permit its meetinghouses or other properties to be used for ceremonies, receptions, or other activities associated with same-sex marriages,”.  “Nevertheless, all visitors are welcome to our chapels and premises so long as they respect our standards of conduct while there.”.  Well…they have the right to their opinion.  I think it’s unfortunate that an organized religion would exclude a chunk of their own but that is their choice.

Will be interesting to see how the organized religions handle this going forward.  The head in the sand approach is starting to wear thin with people that can think for themselves and as people are more educated now.

So funny

A little coming out humor.

Amazing photo collection

Great piece featured today by the Huffington Post.  Fabulous photographer Steve Rosenfield published a great project called ‘What I be’ which shows people’s deepest insecurities via captivating photos.  Here is how this project came to be.  Steve gathered a diverse group of individuals and asked them to complete the following statement; “I am not my _____”.  He asked them to fill in the blank with their deepest, darkest insecurities.  You can check out this amazing project here.   I love the theme of this project.

 “Building security through insecurity”.



“I am not my childhood”

Image“I am not my femininity”Image“I am not my sexuality”Image“I am not my rape” 


Image“I am not my image” 



“I am not my stage 4 cancer”

Image“I am not my bulimia”


And my personal favorite: 


“I am not my number.”


Yes! Utah same-sex marriages recognized federally! Go USA!!


This is tremendous news!! As you know, the idiots in Utah don’t recognize same-sex marriage at the moment. After thousands of marriage licenses were handed out, the Supreme Court extended a stay to the old bigoted law that prohibited marriage equality. Well…guess what just happened? No Utah hasn’t gotten it’s head of it’s wacky ass. Instead, the federal government has stepped in and essentially said “enough”.

Attorney General Holder said gays “should not be asked to endure uncertainty regarding their status” as Utah figured their &hit out.

He went on to say, “I am confirming today that, for purposes of federal law, these marriages will be recognized as lawful and considered eligible for all relevant federal benefits on the same terms as other same-sex marriages,”. “These families should not be asked to endure uncertainty regarding their status as the litigation unfolds.”

Ummmm. Brilliant. Finally sounds like the Feds are getting something right. Major props. Of course this has lawsuits written all over it. You now have a class of citizens in Utah that have FEDERAL equality but do not have state privileges. Additionally, you have all the gay couples that are married in one of the decent (or pro-equality) states who don’t have federal rights. Honestly, this is a huge mess. Something tells me we will have marriage equality federally in the next 5-10 years. That seems like a very long time to me though given the fact that it is 2014.

Comment for Utah Governor Herbert: You will be laughed at when we look back on this. Not only are you wrong with your bigoted opinion but you will have the honor of being one of the elite few that openly and proudly went out of their way to take rights away from American citizens. You and your kind have done exactly the opposite of what America is about.

Lastly, the last official Gallup poll in July of 2013 said 54% of Americans support marriage equality. I think that number is much higher but that does confirm 1 thing that all of is forward thinking folks know. Half of the population is dumb as rocks…that’s not just here in the USA. People all over the world are idiots. Isn’t it grand? 🙂 <—that's my dry sense of humor. Kisses!

Russia is turning into Nazi Germany


This is scary. Today the Russian Orthodox Church announced that they think homosexuality should just be banned all together. To be clear, they want to remove homosexuals from society. Does that sound familiar at all? This is especially troubling because it is coming directly from the Church. There are no mixing words here. This is nothing short of criminal.

Here is what evil spokesman. Vsevolod Chaplin had to say to the online edition of the pro-government Izvestia daily, “There is no question that society should discuss this issue since we live in a democracy,”. “For this reason, it is precisely the majority of our people and not some outside powers that should decide what should be a criminal offence and what should not.”. Lastly, he said, “I am convinced that such sexual contacts should be completely excluded from the life of our society,”
Wow. Seriously dude? I wasn’t aware that it’s 1945 again. He then went on to add, “If we manage to do this through moral pressure, all the better. But if we need to revert to assistance from the law, then let us ask the people if they are ready for this.”. !!!! So basically he is literally saying that they are striving for Nazi Germany…I really hope that world leaders take this very seriously because this is the exact type of rhetoric that was spewed in Nazi Germany before things got bad.

By the way, over 1/3 of Russians view homosexuality as an illness according to recent polls. Has anyone taken a step back and thought why?? Gee. I wonder.

This is major folks. The news from Russia has not been good for equality. Let’s hope things change and soon.

This guy needs to go


I reported on Ivan Okhlobystin, the Russian actor who said “all gays should be burnt in ovens” not that long ago. Well folks, he is at it again.

The moron published an open letter to bigger moron Putin asking him to get even more aggressive on the anti-gay laws. Here is what he had to say.l, “because the existence of officially registered societies of homosexuals is by itself a direct advertisement of homosexuality,” reports the Moscow Times.In an open letter to Putin ultimately published on Russia’s Facebook-equivalent social networking site, VKontakte, Okhlobystin said the so-called gay propaganda ban didn’t go far enough “because the existence of officially registered societies of homosexuals is by itself a direct advertisement of homosexuality,”. That is from the Moscow Times.

Last side-note, this guy used to be a priest. Can’t make this stuff up folks.

Good day and kisses to all (except that douche).

Do NOT protect gays from human trafficking


Janice Pauls- probably needs to count a bumpy road as a date…

This is pretty disturbing.   Lawmakers in Kansas are talking about a new human-trafficking law that also protects LGBT individuals.  Different groups of people are protected under various human-trafficking laws and the purposes of the various laws are to protect.  Other than the obvious point that human-trafficking of any kind is wrong, you may ask yourself what is wrong with protecting gay individuals.   Good question.  Rep. Janice (Jan) Pauls does NOT want to protect gay individuals and is not pleased that this new law calls out sexual orientation as a protected class.  Pauls states that gays and lesbians are currently not a protected class in Kansas and that it would be bad to add them as a protected class in this law because technically in Kansas, they are not protected.  Also, she goes on to say that it may harm the individual because religious organizations often help take people in.  She fears that a religious organization may turn someone away if they are gay

So many things wrong with this situation…not sure where to start.  Let’s keep it simple.  This lady is clearly a bigot and a nasty person.  The fact that you would even bring this up is nothing short of evil.  It is so sad to see that someone could be so close-minded to bring up his or her personal BS views on a human-trafficking law.  Next, if a religious organization would turn someone away for any reason who has come for help…well then that religion should take a serious look in the mirror and re-think it’s definition of immorality.

Another athlete comes out!


Thomas Hitzlsperger

This time it was German FORMER soccer player Thomas Hitzlsperger.  I have no idea how to talk the language of sports so I figured it would be best use Wikipedia…or I may say something completely wrong (like touch down at a baseball game…it happened).

Wikipedia bio: Thomas Hitzlsperger (born 5 April 1982) is a German former footballer who played as a midfielder. He spent the early part of his career playing for Aston Villa in England (accompanied by a short loan spell at Chesterfield), before returning to Germany to play for Stuttgart, where he won the Bundesliga in 2007. In 2010 he signed for Italian side Lazio, before moving back to England to join West Ham United later that year. He then had brief spells with Wolfsburg and Everton.

Hitzlsperger also represented the German national team, earning 52 caps and being selected for the 2006 World Cup and Euro 2008. Following a series of injuries, he retired from football in September 2013.

As it states above, he retired in Sept. of 2013.  Yet another FORMER athlete that comes out.  I’ll take it.  I have written about athletes coming out and how I think we need more active athletes coming out.  In my opinion, athletes are scared to lose lucrative endorsements and fear not being “part of the team” so they stay closeted.  

Hitzlsperger spoke with German newspaper Die Zeit  and said he came out right before the Winter Olympics intentionally in support of the community.  “I think this is a good moment for it,”.  “The Olympic Games in Sochi are coming up and I think we need critical voices against the campaigns of several governments against homosexuals.”.  GOOD FOR YOU!! And yes yes yes!

Hitzlsperger went on to say “Homosexuality is ignored in football,”.  “To this day, I don’t know one player personally who has expressed himself on the topic,”.  “As absurd as it might sound in 2014, in soccer, ‘gay’ is still a swear word. You even say ‘gay pass’ after a weak pass to another player,”.  Sadly, he admitted to using the ‘gay’ slur himself.  Just goes to show you how (blissfully) ignorant athletes can be.  

I say GOOD FOR HIM and I look forward to more athlete taking that brave step out of the closet.  This is truly the civil rights issue of this generation and it is a shame that it is taking so long to move forward! 

Shouldn’t out the professional athletes


While my opinion is that all the closeted professional athletes are nothing short of cowards and liars, it is their right to do so. There is always chatter in the news about what athlete is gay and some of it is true. Where there is smoke, there is fire. That said, outing someone is never the right choice.

I hope there is a day where we don’t need to come out. Where it is completely normal to be straight or LGBT. The truth is that we are all born this way. Including the heterosexuals.

Back on topic. Unless someone is actively anti-gay and a public figure, we really have no place outing them. It is a deeply personal decision. There are factors that go beyond acceptance. What we do need is more straight professional athletes speaking up that being gay is ok. We need to educate the uneducated. Making it easier for those in the painful closet to come out. It shouldn’t be a choice between coming out and keeping your lucrative contract and endorsements. My personal opinion is that being honest with yourself and your fan base is more important than the $ but that is easy to say when I don’t have a $100 Million contract in front of me.

I write this today as I am reading the stories about Aaron Rodgers. The Green Bay Packers QB and his alleged boyfriend.

I had a closeted relationship with someone who worked in professional sports and I can tell you from experience that these gay/bi-sexual professional athletes are crippled with fear, self-doubt and insecurities. Not that much different then the rest of us who haven’t come out yet.

Shady shade shade: Closeted Politicians


Aaron Schock: clearly “straight”

I just LOVE this article! Seriously one of the best things I have read in such a long time. The article highlights politicians that have been caught in a compromising position to put it nicely. The position is a gay one. Not just a little gay but full on Mariah Carey, Lady GaGa and Madonna gay.

Let’s examine the common theme among almost 100% of these men. They are anti-gay in some way. They have either voted to limit gay rights or have been extremely outspoken with their bigotry. Now any half-intelligent person should be able to pick up on this common denominators pretty quickly here. Oh and they are mostly Republicans as well. Isn’t that just festive? I always say and truly believe that when people are nasty/rotten you don’t really need to do much to prove it. They will do a great job of proving just how nasty and rotten they are on their own. This is especially true for bigots. They are so clueless, they just keep proving how ignorant they are (Sarah Palin is a great example of an idiot who is blissfully ignorant).

Check out this great article here.

Update to story: Crazy man from Utah


Crazy pants

Update to the Holy Crazy post about Trestin Meacham, the crazy man from Utah who went on a hunger strike because gay marriage passed in Utah.  If you didn’t already, be sure to check that post out.  Well…today gay marriage is illegal again in Utah.  Isn’t it crazy how it is perfectly acceptable to play with an entire group’s rights?

Back on topic.  Trestin took to Facebook today to gloat..sorry, I mean ask his followers for pizza.  Check out his twitter page here.



Couldn’t have said it better myself.

Equality on hold in Utah


The Supreme Court has pleased equality on hold in Utah. Utah’s AG was granted his emergency stay of the bigoted law banning same-sex marriage.

There was no reasoning offered and this stay is “pending final disposition”. This is truly a shame and slap in the face of equality.

Read more here.

Evander Holyfield needs to get his head checked


Boxing “champ” Evander Holyfield had some verbal vomit last night on the show “Celebrity Big Brother”. He compared being gay to being handicapped and being gay “is something that can be fixed”.

Hmmmm….Evander, you half-wit, similar to the damage to your brain from being hit so much, being gay is not something that can be fixed. Unlike your horrible point of view, being gay is also something that shouldn’t be fixed. Damn man, you need to start wearing a helmet! Sad to say, but at least he has an excuse. He’s brain is probably mush at this point. What’s the excuse for all the other idiots out there saying similar things??

I was reading this morning that people are calling for him to be kicked off the show. I know a lot of folks out there will say that he was just practicing free speech. To those people I say, what would happen if he made an anti-black comment? What our friend Evander and most other bigots don’t get is that bigotry is bigotry. Sadly for Evander, he is a member of a community that has faced similar bigotry. You would think he would have enough common sense to realize that?
As I keep writing about, all bigotry roads lead to religion. The easy solve would be for people to face the fact that we shouldn’t take religious scriptures so literally.
That is all. Kisses!

Quick rant: Outing people


Aaron Schock image used for “hypothetical” purposes only

You should never out someone. Well…that is almost never. I do believe there is one small exception to that rule.

If someone is a public figure and using that fame as a stage to spew anti-gay hatred, they should be outed. Not because they are a public figure but because the my have chosen to use that spotlight to shame the very community they belong to. For example, if a politician is publicly anti-gay and votes to limit gay rights….this person should be exposed for the 1. Bigot that he/she is and 2. Sham that he/she is.

That is all.

Straight NFL player fired for supporting gays

chris kluwe

I normally don’t write about sports because…you know, it’s a complete waste of time but this is pretty interesting.

Chris Kluwe was the punter for the Minnesota Vikings from 2005-2012.  He claims the NFL fired him for his support of same-sex marriage.  He even wrote an article about it (click here for the article).  This has caused quite the scandal.  Other NFL players are coming out in support of Chris, which is great to see.  This brings up the topic of homophobia in professional sports.  Anyone with half a brain should be able to figure out that there are obviously gay players in the MLB, NFL, NBA and NHL.  Assuming 1 out of 8 (I think it is more like 1 out of 5) people is gay…do the math.  I think the pro-sports teams are scared to show their support for gay rights because they are too scared to step outside the box and go against man-made gender roles.  Manly men supporting gays??? That would just be too much.  A gay man being a manly man playing sports?!? Well that would just be CRAZY! The other and primary concern is $$$.  The major leagues are scared that they will lose some of their fan base by having a gay player.  Why? Because they think that sports fans just couldn’t handle a gay player.  A very smart mentor of mine once told me that all roads lead to money.  This is indeed a very true statement.  This is the same reason national brands have been so slow in incorporating gays in their advertisements.

Back to the topic at hand.  Brendon Ayanbadejo is another NFL player who says that Chris is “100% right” when he says he was fired for his support of same-sex marriage.  Brendon went on to say “You’re talking about a guy who was the first or second in every punting category in terms of performance in Minnesota Vikings history.”.

Moving visual poem by Iranian poet

The poem is called “I” and is pretty cool. The video is produced by the International Gay And Lesbian Human Rights Commission (IGLHRC) and by J.D. Kamran. It shows the struggle of the LGBT community in Iran. Being gay is illegal in Iran like it is in many neighboring countries. Not only is being gay illegal but the crimes against the LGBT community are too much and too disturbing to list. It is truly a different world and we should all be thankful for our freedom.

Here is the touching poem. Be sure to check out the video too.
I have always been here
In the black and white of stories
I have always been here
Here, in the empty frame of pictures
I have always been here
In the hidden closet of poetry
In the broken crystal of moments
I have always been here
Not in the pit stoned to death
Not on the gallows
Not in death
I have always been here, in life
Listen to the sound of my voice
Hear my call
Recognize me
I have always been here

Love Don Lemon!

What a great role model! Good for him! Well said sir. Great advice on coming out.

Holy Crazy!


Trestin Meacham : trestinfast.blogspot.com.

Only Utah can bring you this special type of crazy.  Are you ready folks?? Trestin Meacham, crazy man, is on a hunger strike until Utah stops same-sex marriages.  He has already lost at least 25 lbs. and is living off bottled water and vitamins.  Here is what crazy has to say, “I cannot stand by and do nothing while this evil takes root in my home,”.  “Some things in life are worth sacrificing one’s health and even life if necessary.  I am but a man, and do not have the money and power to make any noticeable influence in our corrupt system. Nevertheless, I can do something that people in power cannot ignore.”.  

Hmmm…wonder what crazy a$$ cool-aid this nut job is drinking.  As a man of the God ( I am guessing that is what he thinks he is ), are there no other things in this world that are upsetting you? Gay marriage is upsetting you THIS much? Starving kids, homeless people and countless wars are TOTALLY cool.  Gay marriage…time to starve myself.  Ok fruit loop.  

Click here to watch the news clip and click here if you want to check out his blog.

Here is the description from his blog:

I began a fast on Saturday the 21st of December; and will continue the fast until the State of Utah exercises its right of nullification.  I will go without food or drink, but will continue to drink water, and take weekly vitamin supplements.

On Friday the 20th of December, a federal judge overturned the State Constitution of Utah and ruled against and its restriction against same sex marriage.  In so doing, Article 1 Section 8 and the 10th Amendment of the U.S Constitution were violated.  Even worse a law voted on by a strong majority of the people of Utah was rescinded, thus robbing the people of their voice in government.  And if this law remains, the natural rights of free speech and religious freedom, vouched safe by the first Amendment of the U.S. Constitution, will be violated.  

This has nothing to do with hatred of a group of people.  I have friends and relatives who practice a homosexual lifestyle and I treat them with the same respect and kindness that I would anyone.  This is about religious freedom, and an out of control federal government. 

So…here is my advice for Trestin.  Good luck to you sir.  Question for you though.  Since you are fighting this holy fight, why not just cut out water and vitamins? Surely, you will live due to a miracle from God.  Sounds like you are full of something already.  Just go with it bud.  Let us all know how it turns out.




Utah is spending $2 Million of taxpayer $ to fight marriage equality

You can’t help but say “huh??” to this one.  Utah’s Attorney General, Sean Reyes is spending about $2 Million of taxpayer dollars to fight the noble fight of the righteous or whatever he wants to call it.  As you know, Reyes has been wining since same-sex marriage became legal again in Utah.  He even filed for an emergency stay of the bigoted law that banned same-sex marriages.  This is a HUGE amount of money to waste on something that clearly has bigoted roots that are promoted by various religious organizations.  

This is just a drop in the bucket of money that has been wasted in recent history for people trying to “protect marriage”.  In 2011, U.S. House Republicans spent $2.3 Million of taxpayer dollars to defend the bigoted Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA).  The lawyer hired has a billable rate of $520 an hour.  I don’t care what your personal beliefs are.  I don’t want to contribute $1 of my hard earned money to support bigotry.

How much GOOD could we do with all that money and energy that has been wasted on promoting bigotry? Feed the hungry, provide life-saving vaccinations to those in need, help the homeless…I could go on and on.  Logic and reason folks.  It is truly lost on most people. 

Bottom line, everyone should have the CIVIL RIGHT to get married.   Religious organizations should have the right to decide who they want to marry based on their ridiculous and man made rules.  

Quick rant: Fox “News”

Fox “News” NYE special will include the Stars of Duck Dynasty tonight.  Seriously.  Nothing to say other than I am not surprised.

I really consider myself open-minded and I do realize that the major news channels are pretty much propaganda.  I truly make an effort to get my news from multiple sources and educate myself on a topic before I have an opinion.  I just don’t understand how Fox “News” is still on the air.  You talk to anyone who watches Fox “News” and they will say that the liberal media (i.e. MSNBC) is just as bad as Fox in “spinning”.  I agree that liberal media stations certainly have their own “spin” on things but I can’t get over the fact that Fox “News” promotes bigotry.  There is no getting around the fact that they employee sexist, homophobic and racist newscasters who share their horrible views everyday.  Say what you want about liberal media but I don’t see anyone on MSNBC screaming about there being a white santa, how gay marriage is ruining the world or how the bible should be the law.

Back to New Years Eve on Fox…just watch CNN with Anderson Cooper and Kathy Griffin.  HELLO!? I mean…that’s just normal.  Right?!



New book: “Maybe He’s Not Gay”


Let me just say that I CAN’T with these people.  There.  Got that out.  I feel better.  Let’s move on.

Do you know who Linda Harvey is? I didn’t either until I read all about her lovely new book called “Maybe He’s Not Gay”.  She is essentially a bigot that hides behind her faith while she spews hate.  Very similar to most bigots.  I am really torn on this.  While I fully support free speech and think this lady should have the right to write this book, I think the book is quite damaging and harmful.  I think it’ll do damage to anyone that comes in contact with it.  It PAINS ME to think about the poor child who has a parent who would actually purchase this.  If anything, this book is proof that not everybody is fit to be a parent.  

Keeping it respectful and professional here for a moment.  Let’s just review a few things.

ALL CHILDREN NEED SUPPORT AND LOVE FROM THERE PARENTS to establish a positive sense of self.  There are thousands and thousands of studies that support this.  
-LGBT youth have the HIGHEST rates of suicide, anxiety and depression.  This is one of the SADDEST things I can think of.  We are not born to hate.  We are conditioned to by religion and society’s idea of what is “normal” (this ideology is based off what religion’s define as “normal”)
-I want us all to be very clear here.  If a parent has a child who thinks he or she is gay and that parent does ANYTHING but 100% support that child, it is a form of child abuse.  The sooner society recognizes that, the better off we will all be.

Back to crazy! Here is what Linda has to say about her book.

“”I’m gay.” As more and more young people announce this is their identity, it’s time to take a closer look. It’s a profound declaration, a new civil right (they are told) and it’s “who you are.” But there’s a problem. Are we sure this is the truth? Does this identity bring the promised liberation and the key to a whole new life? Does it lift the burden of secrecy – or begin a different kind of struggle?”<— Yes, it brings on a completely different kind of struggle because bigots like you are using religion as a weapon to hurt innocent people.  Go f*ck yourself you dumb c*nt.  And YES, it is a CIVIL right to be free and who we are.  Put the bible down for a second and better educate yourself.  Oh, I’m done being professional.  Forgot to give you a warning.

Here is Linda’s bio from her book.

About the author 
Linda Harvey is the president and founder of Mission America (www.missionamerica.com). She is an author, speaker and radio host who has reported on sexual identity politics for twenty years. Raised in a liberal home, Linda became a Christian and changed her mind and heart about some of the most volatile issues of our time. A former teacher who became an advertising executive, then head of a Christian pro-family group, Linda has been interviewed by media outlets from coast to coast. Since 2009, she has been the host of the Mission America radio show broadcast throughout Ohio. The author of numerous articles on homosexuality, youth culture and Christian faith issues, Linda has spoken to adult and youth audiences all over North America. She is also a wife and mother of two. <– Those poor kids.  


Bigot and horrible person- Linda Harvey


Duck Dynasty Clock: “Heil Hitler.”

I am SO over the drama that is Duck Dynasty and will limit any mention of it going forward but this is too funny/good not to share. Someone found a Duck Dynasty clock in Walmart that seems to say ‘Heil Hitler.”.
I seriously doubt the makers of this clock would have it say this. Sadly, would anyone be surprised if it was real?

Pope Francis: Not a fan of the gays

This shouldn’t be too surprising.  Openly anti-gay Bishop Charles Scicluna says he met with Pope Francis and the pope was very much against gay couples adopting.  Pope Francis has been in the news a lot this year labeled as a “more liberal” pope.  Let’s be clear here. If you are not supporting equality you are against it.  There is no reward for being less of a bigot than others.

2013 was not a very gay friendly year for the Catholic Church.   There have been MANY anti-gay statements made by Bishops all over the world this year.  The highlight for me was when Bishop Thomas John Paprocki performed an EXORCISM on gay marriage in Illinois! The runner up for me this year was when Cardinal Timothy M. Dolan said Catholic Church was being “caricatured as being anti-gay”.  He wasn’t kidding.  That is the scary thing!

One more thing for us to all be clear on. The Pope runs the show at the Catholic Church.  He would silence his Bishops if he wanted to.  Pope Francis is 100% against equality.  Granted, he may be less public with his bigotry.

Hopefully the Catholic Church (and all other organized religions) will focus on more important and relevant things in 2014.  Things like preaching love, teaching people to be kind, preaching tolerance and most importantly, modernizing dated views on gender roles and the LGBT community.

Good for you Robin Roberts!


Robin Roberts, anchor on Good Morning America has just come out on Facebook as gay! You go honey!!! Roberts is 53 and apparently had a long-term girlfriend. Here is her post on her Facebook fan page for the end-of-the-year message .

“I am grateful for my entire family, my long time girlfriend, Amber, and friends as we prepare to celebrate a glorious new year together.”

Yes hunty!! Good for you.

Side-note, President Obama chose Roberts to interview him when he came out in support of gay marriage.

Boy Scouts: Gay is ok


The BSA (Boy Scouts of America) will begin accepting gay youth on 1/1/14. They are hoping this will go over smoothly without much attention. What the hell are they scared of? Rainbows won’t start shooting out of your ass if you aren’t a bigot…don’t worry. Other than some Churches cutting their sponsorships there hasn’t been much bad press for the BSA. The Catholic and and Mormon Church are still on board for now.

I anticipate some crazies will make a fuss out of this. Religious organizations, anti-gay organizations and some conservative groups. Ironically, the people that are always against pro-equality movements are the exact people who should be promoting it.

Here is what I have to say to the BSA. Good job. Took you WAY too long to make this happen but better late than never. Ignore anyone who is opposed to equality and remember that you shouldn’t want bigots supporting you.

It’s about time we let gay youth know they are loved, respected and that they have their place in society.

Gay couple kicked out of bar for being gay

Just read this story and had to comment. A gay couple was thrown out of a country-western bar in Texas for dancing together. Justin Meyer, 21, and James Douglas, 30, say the owner of Cactus Canyon in Victoria, Texas kicked them out for two-stepping together. The reason provided you ask? “Security Reasons”.

Here is what a bar spokesperson had to say, “It’s not acceptable for men to dance together in the type of business that we run.”. So basically they run a bigoted organization that promotes discrimination. Congratulations.

This is why the LGBT community needs federal rights and protection as a minority group.

Phil Robertson: Back on the air!

Phil Robertson will be back on Duck Dynasty shortly. He is no longer suspended on A&E. I think this is a good thing. The buzz surrounding this story will fizzle out soon and he will always be a bigot and spokesperson for people that we all wish would just go away. His career may or may not fizzle out and he may go work for an extremist organization like Westboro Baptist Church or Fox “News”…

Bottom line, this guy is an idiot and an embarrassment for this country.

That is all. Kisses!

Hey Queen, Pardon more gays!

As you know, computer science legend Alan Turing was just pardoned by the queen for his crime of being gay (official crime was “gross indecency”) in the 1950’s. Well…it turns out that there were around 50,000+ men that were prosecuted for being gay. British LGBT activist (and great person) Peter Tatchell is pushing the British government to pardon the rest of the men who were also convicted of the 19th-century law criminalizing being gay. The crazy thing is that there are 15,000 men who are still alive that were charged with that crime.

The government had previously and wrongly may I add, refused to pardon these men. But now the Queen has pardoned Turing so this has provided an additional (and much needed spotlight) on the topic.

Apparently, the first step for the pardon is a formal application of some sort. This is COMPLETE bull s*it. What kind of world do we live in where someone would have to apply for a pardon..for being gay?!!’ How is that even happening!?!

Hopefully people will do what is right and pardon all who experienced discrimination due to the dated and wrong anti-gay laws of the past.

Quick rant: People voting on gay rights

This is why we should NEVER let civilians vote on CIVIL rights.  

That is why the government is here.  To protect the citizens.  Not just take money, steal money, lie and all the other stupid things that they currently do.  PROTECT your TAX PAYING citizens.  By the way, the gays have some of the highest disposable income.  This makes us GREAT tax paying citizens that contribute MORE than the average person.

We should take a look at history.  What would happen if we let “the people” vote on civil rights for other minority groups?

Kisses and rainbows. That is all.

Count your blessings folks

Hate to publish a sad post on Christmas but it is truly important that we realize how much further we have to go in the very important fight for LGBT equality.
Very disturbing letters from the worst parents of 2013

New favorite website alert!

Such a cute site!!! Check out gaydadsswag!

A site dedicated to adorable gay dads! I love.

Merry Christmas!

From Black Santa.


Legend Alan Turing Pardoned (for being gay)

Way to go UK government! Well folks, Alan Turing has been pardoned for his HORRIBLE crime of being gay in the 1Way to go UK government! Well folks, Alan Turing has been pardoned for his HORRIBLE crime of being gay in 50’s. The pardon came from Queen Elizabeth the second. Turing is a true legend, leader and hero. He is known for multiple contributions to computer sciences but is best known for his work in cracking German codes during the Second World War. His code-breaking skills helped bring many Nazis to justice. Turing was openly gay and not ashamed of who he was. Truly ahead of this time. Unfortunately, homosexual acts were criminal in the UK at the time and he was convicted of “gross indecency” because of his relationship with another man. He was convicted in 1952 and accepted treatment of a chemical castration (estrogen injections to kill his sex drive). Turing committed suicide in 1954, shortly after his 1952 conviction.

Here is what British Prime Minister, David Cameron, said in a statement: “His action saved countless lives. He also left a remarkable national legacy through his substantial scientific achievements, often being referred to as the ‘father of modern computing.’ ”

Great reminder of how far we have come with civil rights and also a reminder that we have a long way to go as well.


Ohio getting closer to marriage equality!

Well this is just FABULOUS! A federal judge in Ohio is helping push the state towards marriage equality by stating that the state’s ban on same-sex marriage is unconstitutional in regards to death certificates.  DEATH CERTIFICATES?! How about a ban on same-sex marriage is just plain old CRAZY and unconstitutional but I’ll take what I can get!

Judge Timothy Black ruled Monday that Ohio must recognize unions of same-sex couples.  The ruling specifically addressed death-certificates due to a lawsuit filed by a gay couple but also addressed marriage equality.  This is great news as Black is challenging the marriage ban. 

This ruling came from a lawsuit filed by a few gay couples.  Each couple had one partner that was dying and the surviving partner wanted to be recognized as married (as they should be) on the death certificate.  

Here is what Black had to say on the matter, “Once you get married lawfully in one state, another state cannot summarily take your marriage away,”.

As a reminder, voters passed Ohio’s gay marriage ban in 2004.  SO CRAZY that people can vote on CIVIL rights.

Small town business support

So I am heading to a small town a few hours outside of Kalamazoo for Christmas and there is a small coffees shop that is gay owned. I plan on going to the coffee shop everyday while I am in town to show my support for the business and business owner.  

What can you do to support a local business that is pro-equality?

Merry Christmas & Safe Travels

Merry Christmas & Safe Travels

Wishing everyone a very Merry Christmas and/or Holiday. Safe travels this week.
Wishing you all the best.

With love and kisses,

That’s So Gay.co

Suck it equality opponents!

This is fabulous.  You have to love it when idiots are reminded that they are idiots.  As you know, the ban on gay marriage was just struck down in Utah for being unconstitutional (DUH!).  As I mentioned in my last note on this (you can read that here), the Utah Attorney General (Brian Tarbet) and governor (Gary Herbert) was pushing HARD for an EMERGENCY STAY of the old bigoted law.

Great news folks.  On Sunday, the US 10th Circuit Court of Appeals denied Utah officials’ request for an emergency stay of the same-sex marriage ban.  Doesn’t equality just smell great?! I just don’t get these people who are STILL on the wrong side of history.  WAKE UP!! Gay marriage will not impact heterosexual marriage in any way!! If you are worried that it will, you are probably a closeted gay and want to get gay married yourself! BAM!

Here is what Gary Herbert the Governor of Utah had to say.  “I am very disappointed an activist federal judge is attempting to override the will of the people of Utah.  “I am working with my legal counsel and the acting attorney general to determine the best course to defend traditional marriage within the borders of Utah.”.  NEWSFLASH you idiot.  Utah is the polygamist capital of this country.  Please do not preach traditional marriage you dumb f*ck.

Are you excited about this?!?! Want to tell folks in power at Utah just how excited you are?! Click here to do that.


Second trailer for “looking” on HBO

Had to share! So excited about this show! “Looking” premieres Jan. 19 on HBO.

Will you be watching!?